The message above was tweeted by Boona Mohammed back in February 2012 and I loved it! I re-tweeted it and posted it on my networks to share.. 2 days ago, I came across a colleague of mine and there was that word mentioned during the conversation and I very reluctantly sunk deep… and deeper into that thought which I had with utmost difficulty managed to lose track of! And yet, when the word was brought up again, I couldn’t resist indulging back into those disturbing thoughts.
Anger. One word short of Danger. So it is!
Anger blocks out the human sense and takes over the mind and heart and keeps spreading throughout till it eventually takes over the whole body, and once that happens, one has the power and capacity to hurt another.. with words, actions or even physically. Anger is dangerous on more levels if one realizes that not just others, it makes one sensitive and susceptible to getting hurt with the same force as well. The truth is that at the end of the day, anger does cool off. Whatever that takes over the body and soul of the being as anger, does bid adieu. Anger carves itself a place to adjust.. and when it departs, it leaves an empty space.. a hole in the soul.. and all one is left with is remorse of the much conveniently questionable .. “what ifs?”
Till about a couple of years back, I did not know I had so much anger within me. When I am angry, I later realize how different I have become from the person I was.. it is because I have started to let worldly things, factors and people effect me. I have come across many angry people in the course of my existence that make me wonder if it is even remotely possible for one to be free of anger.. only if we ponder and question ourselves in isolation, is there really such a thing as an angry person? Do we really get angry and do hurtful things to others and ourselves with an evil intention? Well you’d be judged anyway but that’s a different story 🙂 And we gradually begin to comprehend the supporting factors to this emotion that we call anger. We realize that all of us, each and every one of us is fighting a battle of sorts; if only there were a way to stop ourselves being taken over by such a negative emotion..
I don’t know which blog the following text belongs to, but it made complete sense..
There is so much that we are and so much that we aspire to be, that it is a shame for us to define ourselves by the very emotion that smothers our voices and only extends hurt, fear, and pain to others, especially our spouses and children.
There is a reason why the wise remind us time and again: ghussa haram hai.. (Anger is forbidden)..
One thing that I have been telling myself over and over again.. that it’s never too late!
Even if it means that I’d have to start over in a few important departments of my life. Coz no matter what, I don’t believe I wanna change the person I am..
I’ve learnt alotta things the hard way.. and now I know that is it ok to take a deep breath, that it’s just fine to be selfish once in a while, that there is nothing wrong with looking out for no-one else but myself, that it’s good being gentle to the *sara* for a change.. and that it is certainly okay to move on.
It’s okay to feel brand new.. especially after you’ve been wearing yourself out over others..
And I know that everything’ll b alright inshaAllah in the end! That I am sure bout. And one thing that’s more of a cliche’ to many but is nonetheless true, is that unless all is well, it isn’t the end! So like.. I am very much awaiting the end
Special thanks to Nabia Lakhani for sharing this text message. May Allah bless her always. Ameen.
Photo Credits: Fursid
- Keep free from eating high- calorie flesh (Gossip/gheebah)* of others no matter how juicy!
- Switch to Fat Free Truths!
- Avoid artificial Tempers.
- Do voice therapy by reciting the Qura’an.
- Purify your eyes by crying in Dua.
- Do Hand Reflexology on Tasbeehs.
- Brighten your smile by using a Miswaak.
- Take your weight off your shoulders by paying your Zakaat.
- Shrug off those extra Kilos of Sins by Repenting!
May Allah accept all good we do in Ramadan! InshAllah & Ameen! 🙂
*gossip >gheebah : Backbiting; Gheebah or backbiting means speaking about a Muslim in his absence and saying things that he would not like to have spread around or mentioned. Buhtaan or slander means saying things about a Muslim that are not true, or in other words telling lies about him. Nameemah or malicious gossip means telling one person what another said in order to cause trouble between them.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful”
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
Whoever wrongs a person by slandering him, backbiting about him or insulting him, then repents, Allaah will accept his repentance, but if the one who was wronged finds out about that, he has the right to settle the score. But if he slandered him or backbit about him and the person did not hear of that, then there are two views according to the scholars, both of which were narrated from Ahmad, the more correct of which is that he should not tell him that he spoke against him in his absence. It was said that he should rather speak well of him in his absence just as he spoke badly of him in his absence, as al-Hasan al-Basri said: the expiation for gheebah is to pray for forgiveness for the person about whom you backbit.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 3/291
And Allaah knows best.
References taken from: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/23328/backbiting
I often pass by Abdullah Shah Ghazi’s mazaar and notice people from all kinds of classes right outside, sitting on the footpath, with their palms open at the mercy of the wise, wide-eyed old men, wrinkles on each one of those faces telling a thousand and one stories of their own.. I was reminiscing my drive through that narrow- crowded road after I received a morning text from a friend of mine in which he shared an Indian Proverb, that read as follows:
“Your future does not depend on the lines of your hands, because people who do not have hands also have a future”.
How true! Though I found this study quite interesting at one point in time, I am now pretty much against these horoscopes and palmistry kinda activities based on religious grounds purely.
Anyway, here’s meee meeeee meeee, jotting down some scattered thoughts in this otherwise CRM- terms- filled head of mine, that I’d decided to share this morn here, and which actually gives me an opportunity to appreciate another great effort by another one of my dear x-colleagues and friend, Alishah Chagani.
Quoting *anonymous*, so when was the last time you appreciated a kid? I just did! NOW! 🙂
Well, whatcha waiting for?!
Spread the word and love! Join us in appreciating and encouraging the bunch of youngsters by liking their page on Facebook!
They are the Colors of Hope! Their Official Website and services are expected to be launched in October 2011.
Let’s help spread the colors of Life, with the light of Hope, for these very very special and extremely talented kids!
To view what amazing and beautiful things these angels are capable of doing, check out this link!
Maybe it’s got somethin’ to do with spiritualism… urm.. I dunno.. well it does seem like there’s a connection… It did seem ambiguous when the mind dismissed the idea with the possible inference; smiling and convincing yourself that things’re not TOO bad when in fact they aren’t TOO great, wouldn’t that be a case of 1st degree deception? eeeeee!! sounds almost like a murder! And so I shook my head to let go of the negative thought!
I couldn’t help laughing when a friend pointed why it isn’t possible to smile all the time.. the jaw would start hurting for one, another one pointed out! 😛 well, the point could be taken into consideration.
It was one of those days when I was lost and blue. Everything seemed normal otherwise.. with the exception of something.. important missing.. Only the kids’ excited chitter chatter in the playground kept me from breaking up..
I lay down in the dark with my eyes closed; sweet memories rushing in all at once.. yanked harshly almost immediately by realizations of the loneliness that I felt then… I must admit it took a hell lot of effort to pull in thoughts of better times.. my heart winning out on all the reasonings little by little, as I felt my mind surrendering in vain.. and that’s when I noticed that my lips had automatically curved into a smile..
That a smile does increase a couple of ounces on the amount of calmness contained within one… was all I could conclude with by the time I was all set to make my way back home..
and it sure does help not to let anger take over a bad feelin’ n make things worse..
Instead, the realization of accepting things, people, their natures, their mood swings, circumstances.. n in a nutshell, the world in its entirety… just as it is… comes to life… as time passes… at a *very* slow pace…
well I guess… 🙂
n yeah, the ticks go on…
I absolutely LOVE the idea and motive behind the cause! And lastly but definitely not the least, I love the caption!
My workplace is like going heavy duty with lots of hot projects these days (mashAllah!) and there are moments when it feels like we’re short of resources, but when these guys work as team, they deliver what i call the SizzLer!
I do not know much ’bout the history of how we got this project, but in about 2-3 days, we were all sharing links around the work place to sign the *petition*! What Petition? Supporting Education? oh cool! But the moment the site appeared as i clicked the link, I realized, it wasn’t just cool, I fell in love with it! It was the case of mixed emotions.. the website, promoting the cause, inviting people on several platforms and social networks to Sign the Petition, and woah! whether or not they later pay attention, but THIS is to be shared with the people who run our country! No comments on those guys but.. *sigh* i like totally heart the idea! All the enthusiasm this team worked with on each bit of this project, with all honesty is reflecting beautifully and I hope this Petition has an impact! 🙂 well inshAllah to begin with! and I know that hard work that’s got the *heart* work involved surely pays off!
In my next few posts, I shall be sharing the whys and whats about the petition!
Till then, Join me and the People behind the beautiful idea of supporting the cause of ending the education emergency in Pakistan by signing this petition!
I was watching a movie today.. hadn’t cried in a while.. my heart felt light. For a change, in the past 3 and a half weeks, my head didn’t seem to ache.. everything seemed quiet, and peaceful… At the end of the day, once I was done with my good-nites and sleep-tites, I just lay down thinking.. all that happens around us… most of the things that spontaneously happen and take our breath away, leaving an overjoyed stupid smile on our faces, with genuine happiness reflecting in the gleaming eyes, well most of these things are actually those which we don’t plan for- which only makes me realize, how much I detest planning. Number 1, most things don’t exactly go according to the plan; number 2, the excitement upon achieving the goal as planned is not as hot as that super cool feeling you get when achieving something that hadn’t exactly been planned out; number 3, I strongly believe, there’s a time for everything, which I also believe strongly negates the mere idea of planning! And number 4, planning requires more of a human’s brain to work, than the heart– for me, I would opt for the ♥ touch any given day.. any given time. Though more often than not, I’ve begun with worrying, for things which I later realized left me exhausted uselessly, mainly ‘coz they’d already been planned out by the One Who is the Greatest of Planners. I’m trying to be at peace with myself for now..
Reminds me of a quote by Omar Khayyám, the Phisopher of the World..
“Why ponder thus the future to foresee,
and jade thy brain to vain perplexity?
Cast off thy care, leave Allah’s plans to him –
He formed them all without consulting thee.”
Makes sense now, does it not? 🙂 hmmm…
Okay! I feel like cheering myself up! That’s not a huge figure- I have been telling myself that for the past week now! So what if the realization makes me wince a lil’ in disgust that I’d be 3 decades old next year! Anyway, guess I’ll just live the moments and take it one day at a time and all that crap as I’ve heard ‘em say..
The only good thing ’bout the whole deal is.. that I don’t feel my age! 😀 so I guess it ain’t that huge an issue after all!
Happy Birthday to me! 🙂