Most of us lie when we say that we have forgiven the people for their mistakes and wrongdoings but then we continue to remind them of their mistake sometimes. Maybe in anger or maybe just to tease or make them feel hurt.
Is this a forgiveness we want for ourselves as well?
When we raise our hands in humility towards heavens and we beg for forgiveness, what do we ask for? What kind of forgiveness do we ask for?
We want a clean chit from Allah that we have been forgiven COMPLETELY. We want another chance. We want our huge and endless list of crimes to be erased. We want Allah to accept our repentance and allow us to start again. We don’t want to be reminded of it, or have it come back to haunt or to taunt us. We want our sins to be forgiven here and veiled on the day of Judgement!!
Subhan’Allah, the mercy of our Lord, the Most Merciful is so much unique that Allah Subhanahu Wa Taa’la after forgiving a repenting believer never reminds him of his wrong deeds, neither in this world nor in the hereafter!
Hence, If we want to be forgiven completely, we must learn to forgive others completely.
May Allah help us not to bear any grudges towards anyone, to treat one another properly and to forgive another completely.
Source: Masnoon Islamic Duas
Hazrat Ibn Umar (radhiyallahu anhu) reports that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said: “When you meet a Hajji (on his way home) then greet him, shake hands with him and ask him to beg forgiveness of Allah on your behalf before he enters his home, for his prayer for forgiveness is accepted since he is forgiven by Allah for his sins.”
Hajj Mubarak to all the Hajis across the globe! Warm regards, Sara 🙂
At Sakonent, the mentorship program is once again being taken seriously. In fact it has always been one of my favorite highlights @ Sakonent! When I joined Sakonent, Asma Abbas was assigned as my mentor – alot of what I know ’bout salesforce is all thanks to Asma’s one- month effort she put in as my mentor initially. I totally cherish this smart young lady from the core of my heart 🙂
This time, we have been divided into groups. And each group has been assigned a Mentor. So we, that’d be Khateeb Ibrahim, Atif Shahzad, Khizar Anjum and myself have Farhan Hussaini assigned as our mentor. Apart from the professional associations that each of us might have had with Farhan over the course of several different projects, we know one thing about Farhan on a one-to-one basis. He is an extremely down to earth individual and believes in being a team player, so that no one’s ever left behind. I recently found out that he’s also a pro at Table Tennis, having earned the Table Tennis Championship.
It was Farhan who provided us with the food for thought.. regarding Ego during our first session of the mentorship program.
Farhan shared his thoughts upon how ego is developed within one; when we acquire information, expertise, knowledge, we sense a feeling of empowerment within. And that’s when ego is born. We tend to unconsciously compare our recently attained skills with those who do not have it.
EGO; the word itself emits an aura that seems to look DOWN upon things and people in comparison to itself. This attribute in one tends to make one selfish, commanding, expectant beyond reasonable expectations, in fact, if you take a shot at being blunt and call such creatures egoistic, they’d be down right offended and look down even deeper at you! lol!
Kill that Ego! When Farhan pointed out first that each one of us have some bit of ego within us, I know we were all smiling. Nobody objected as such. And we did all nod when next he said that it was essential that we Kill that EGO!
Nouman Ali Khan, a young speaker who makes Da’awa and whose lectures I absolutely and thoroughly enjoy listening to shared a very simple way to evaluate whether you as an individual have an *Ego Issue*. If you find yourself getting offended when your partner, colleague, friend, classmate or even a child corrects you over a matter of any sort, then you most certainly have an Ego prob! Get rid of it! Even better.. Kill it! 😉
The least that action would do is make you humble and empathetic 🙂 and without an Ego, it would be easier for you to deal with any kinda person in your life in a humane manner, be it a personal or professional situation.
And in simple, ego is destructive. It is not a good thing.. so let go of it.. & yes, make sure you don’t confuse it with self respect 🙂
Ya Allah, Ya Rabbe Kareem, ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, Ya Allah You showered the most incredible blessing upon us, You made us amongst the Ummat-e- Mustafa sallal Laaho aleihi wa aliehi wasallam, Ya ALlah You granted us this incredible honor to be a follower of the Last and greatest Messenger, the greatest of all of Your creation, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, We have allowed ourselves to become distant from his Sunnah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his seerah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his sifaat-e- Mouminana, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we ask You to restore to us his naboo’at, and to restore us to our ummati-ness, Ya Allah we ask You to make us amongst his Kaamil followers, amongst his Kaamil inheritors, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe kareem we want to meet the Prophet sallalaaho aleihi wa alihi wasallam in such a state on the day of judgement that we are able to recognize him, and that he is able to recognize us, that we are able to lay claim to him, and Ya Allah that he himself lays claims to us as his ummati, Ya Allah we ask You to grace us by having the shifa of Rasool Allah sallalaaho aleihi wa aalihi wasallam, let him intercede for us on that day, let us get a place on his ranks and his sahfoof in his rows on the day of judgement, Ya Allah ya Rabbe Kareem, let us get a place in his shade on the day of judgement, and let us get a place in his shade in Jannah for all of the Aakhira for the ever lasting after life, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to Guide us to the path of the Sunnah, the way of the Sunnah, the teachings of the Sunnah, the lifetime of the Sunnah, the emotions of the Sunnah, and the mentality of the Sunnah, Ya Rabbe Kareem we ask you to restore to us this identity of being his follower, Ya Allah we ask you to increase our love for the Prophet Muhammad sallal laaho aleihi waalihi wasallam, our love as the love as his Sahaaba-e- karaam raziAllahtaAlah anhu, our love for all of those who love him, our love for all of those who were beloved to him, our love for each and everyone of his actions, anyone and each one of his statements, each and everyone of his feelings, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to accept our Dua, we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah, from the tips of our hair, to the soles of our feet, from the outermost part of our skin, to the depth and inner most core of our being, Ya Allah we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah life, in the Sunnah way.
Ameen. Summa Ameen.
(Dedicated to the works and lectures of Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed
– Dua after the lecture delivered on the Last Ayaahs of Surah Al Baqarah
LUMS- Lahore University of Management Sciences)
May Allah increase our iimaan. inshAllah and ameen.
Jumma Mabrook everyone!
Sometimes we lose hope in turning to God and asking for His help because we feel like we have done too much wrong. And yet think of a child who has just angered his mother and immediately after trips and falls on the stairs. Even if that child had just angered his mother to tears, the moment he falls and cries for help, she runs to him. This is human mercy.
And God is infinitely more merciful than a mother is to her child. So, do you think–no matter what you’ve done–when you’re falling and cry out to the *most* merciful…He wouldn’t come save you?
– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed
The message above was tweeted by Boona Mohammed back in February 2012 and I loved it! I re-tweeted it and posted it on my networks to share.. 2 days ago, I came across a colleague of mine and there was that word mentioned during the conversation and I very reluctantly sunk deep… and deeper into that thought which I had with utmost difficulty managed to lose track of! And yet, when the word was brought up again, I couldn’t resist indulging back into those disturbing thoughts.
Anger. One word short of Danger. So it is!
Anger blocks out the human sense and takes over the mind and heart and keeps spreading throughout till it eventually takes over the whole body, and once that happens, one has the power and capacity to hurt another.. with words, actions or even physically. Anger is dangerous on more levels if one realizes that not just others, it makes one sensitive and susceptible to getting hurt with the same force as well. The truth is that at the end of the day, anger does cool off. Whatever that takes over the body and soul of the being as anger, does bid adieu. Anger carves itself a place to adjust.. and when it departs, it leaves an empty space.. a hole in the soul.. and all one is left with is remorse of the much conveniently questionable .. “what ifs?”
Till about a couple of years back, I did not know I had so much anger within me. When I am angry, I later realize how different I have become from the person I was.. it is because I have started to let worldly things, factors and people effect me. I have come across many angry people in the course of my existence that make me wonder if it is even remotely possible for one to be free of anger.. only if we ponder and question ourselves in isolation, is there really such a thing as an angry person? Do we really get angry and do hurtful things to others and ourselves with an evil intention? Well you’d be judged anyway but that’s a different story 🙂 And we gradually begin to comprehend the supporting factors to this emotion that we call anger. We realize that all of us, each and every one of us is fighting a battle of sorts; if only there were a way to stop ourselves being taken over by such a negative emotion..
I don’t know which blog the following text belongs to, but it made complete sense..
There is so much that we are and so much that we aspire to be, that it is a shame for us to define ourselves by the very emotion that smothers our voices and only extends hurt, fear, and pain to others, especially our spouses and children.
There is a reason why the wise remind us time and again: ghussa haram hai.. (Anger is forbidden)..
Let go of your grudges. Let the bitterness die tonight. Make a decision today that it’s time to move on. And begin again. New, this time. Never forget that what has passed you by was never meant to befall you. And what has befallen you, was never meant to pass you by. Know that sometimes Allah withholds from you, in order to give you something better. Keep your heart focused on Him, and He will take care of the rest. And remember: you will stumble, but that’s part of the path. Keep going. Keep rising, and refuse to give up.
– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed
- Keep free from eating high- calorie flesh (Gossip/gheebah)* of others no matter how juicy!
- Switch to Fat Free Truths!
- Avoid artificial Tempers.
- Do voice therapy by reciting the Qura’an.
- Purify your eyes by crying in Dua.
- Do Hand Reflexology on Tasbeehs.
- Brighten your smile by using a Miswaak.
- Take your weight off your shoulders by paying your Zakaat.
- Shrug off those extra Kilos of Sins by Repenting!
May Allah accept all good we do in Ramadan! InshAllah & Ameen! 🙂
*gossip >gheebah : Backbiting; Gheebah or backbiting means speaking about a Muslim in his absence and saying things that he would not like to have spread around or mentioned. Buhtaan or slander means saying things about a Muslim that are not true, or in other words telling lies about him. Nameemah or malicious gossip means telling one person what another said in order to cause trouble between them.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful”
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
Whoever wrongs a person by slandering him, backbiting about him or insulting him, then repents, Allaah will accept his repentance, but if the one who was wronged finds out about that, he has the right to settle the score. But if he slandered him or backbit about him and the person did not hear of that, then there are two views according to the scholars, both of which were narrated from Ahmad, the more correct of which is that he should not tell him that he spoke against him in his absence. It was said that he should rather speak well of him in his absence just as he spoke badly of him in his absence, as al-Hasan al-Basri said: the expiation for gheebah is to pray for forgiveness for the person about whom you backbit.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 3/291
And Allaah knows best.
References taken from: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/23328/backbiting
It is finally here! My favorite month besides rabbi ulawwal! And the most special thing about this month for me is that I feel the closest to Allah.
Wishing a Blessed Ramadan to all Muslims across the globe! May Allah accept our fasts and duas..n give us all a chance to not just be better Muslims, but humans as well. InshAllah and Ameen!
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell his Companions the good news of the onset of Ramadaan, and urge them to make the most of it. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said,
‘There has come to you Ramadaan, a blessed month. Allaah has made it obligatory on you to fast (this month). During it the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of Hell are locked, and the devils are chained up. In it there is a night that is better than a thousand months, and whoever is deprived of its goodness is deprived indeed.'”