Anger: the negative force

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The message above was tweeted by Boona Mohammed back in February 2012 and I loved it! I re-tweeted it and posted it on my networks to share.. 2 days ago, I came across a colleague of mine and there was that word mentioned during the conversation and I very reluctantly sunk deep… and deeper into that thought which I had with utmost difficulty managed to lose track of! And yet, when the word was brought up again, I couldn’t resist indulging back into those disturbing thoughts.

Anger. One word short of Danger. So it is!

Anger blocks out the human sense and takes over the mind and heart and keeps spreading throughout till it eventually takes over the whole body, and once that happens, one has the power and capacity to hurt another.. with words, actions or even physically. Anger is dangerous on more levels if one realizes that not just others, it makes one sensitive and susceptible to getting hurt with the same force as well. The truth is that at the end of the day, anger does cool off. Whatever that takes over the body and soul of the being as anger, does bid adieu. Anger carves itself a place to adjust.. and when it departs, it leaves an empty space.. a hole in the soul.. and all one is left with is remorse of the much conveniently questionable .. “what ifs?”

Till about a couple of years back, I did not know I had so much anger within me. When I am angry, I later realize how different I have become from the person I was.. it is because I have started to let worldly things, factors and people effect me. I have come across many angry people in the course of my existence that make me wonder if it is even remotely possible for one to be free of anger.. only if we ponder and question ourselves in isolation, is there really such a thing as an angry person?  Do we really get angry and do hurtful things to others and ourselves with an evil intention? Well you’d be judged anyway but that’s a different story 🙂 And we gradually begin to comprehend the supporting factors to this emotion that we call anger. We realize that all of us, each and every one of us is fighting a battle of sorts; if only there were a way to stop ourselves being taken over by such a negative emotion..

I don’t know which blog the following text belongs to, but it made complete sense..

There is so much that we are and so much that we aspire to be, that it is a shame for us to define ourselves by the very emotion that smothers our voices and only extends hurt, fear, and pain to others, especially our spouses and children.

There is a reason why the wise remind us time and again: ghussa haram hai.. (Anger is forbidden)..

May 19, 2012

Let go of your grudges. Let the bitterness die tonight. Make a decision today that it’s time to move on. And begin again. New, this time. Never forget that what has passed you by was never meant to befall you. And what has befallen you, was never meant to pass you by. Know that sometimes Allah withholds from you, in order to give you something better. Keep your heart focused on Him, and He will take care of the rest. And remember: you will stumble, but that’s part of the path. Keep going. Keep rising, and refuse to give up.

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed

The H2O charity :)

“The best charity is water given for drinking (to the public).”

Collected by Aboo Daawood (Sunan Abu Dawud, vol. 2, p. 441 no. 1675)

A source of water, like a well or water fountain, placed in trust (waqf) for public use. Due to the scarcity of water in Arabia at that time, such an act was of considerable value. Even today, due to pollution of rivers and oceans, fresh water remains a valuable commodity in most parts of the world due to its vital role in human nutrition and its scarcity.

Source: http://blog.bilalphilips.com/2012/01/12/charity-water/

miracles…

“There are two ways to look at life. One is as though nothing is a miracle; the other is as though everything is.”

One of my favorite quotes by Albert Einstein! Today, it was the daily quote dosage from my khala which makes the entire deal all the more special for me : )

m i r a c l e s . . .   do take a moment to realize their existence around & within you…
<alhamdolillah!>

Happy Monday! & have a great week! : )
(drafted on 02-13-2012; published on 02-17-2012)

Keepin’ Calm & Carryin’ On!

One thing that I have been telling myself over and over again.. that it’s never too late!
Even if it means that I’d have to start over in a few important departments of my life. Coz no matter what, I don’t believe I wanna change the person I am..

I’ve learnt alotta things the hard way.. and now I know that is it ok to take a deep breath, that it’s just fine to be selfish once in a while, that there is nothing wrong with looking out for no-one else but myself, that it’s good being gentle to the *sara* for a change.. and that it is certainly okay to move on.
It’s okay to feel brand new.. especially after you’ve been wearing yourself out over others..
And I know that everything’ll b alright inshaAllah in the end! That I am sure bout. And one thing that’s more of a cliche’ to many but is nonetheless true, is that unless all is well, it isn’t the end! So like.. I am very much awaiting the end

🙂

At the time of rain and thunder:

اللَّهُمَّ صَيِّبَاً نَافِعَا‬
Allaahumma Sayyibann Naafi’aa

“O Allaah, (bring) beneficial rain clouds.”
(Bukhari – Fathul-Bari 2/518)

سُبْحَانَ الَّذِي يُسَبِّحُ الرَّعْدُ بِحَمْدِهِ وَالْمَلَائِكَةٌ مِنْ خِيفَتِهِ
SubhanAllaahil ladhii yusabbihur ra’du bi hamdihi wal malaa-ikatu min kheefatihi

“Glory is to Him Whom thunder and angels glorify due to fear of Him.”

[Whenever Abdullaah bin Zubair radhiyaAllaahu anhu would hear thunder, he would abandon all conversation and say this supplication. See al Muwatta 2/992.

May Allah keep us all in His Hifzoamaan. For the rest of it, enjoy the rain! 🙂

Spiritual DETOX for Ramadan ;)

Special thanks to Nabia Lakhani for sharing this text message. May Allah bless her always. Ameen.
Photo Credits: Fursid

  1. Keep free from eating high- calorie flesh (Gossip/gheebah)* of others no matter how juicy!
  2. Switch to Fat Free Truths!
  3. Avoid artificial Tempers.
  4. Do voice therapy by reciting the Qura’an.
  5. Purify your eyes by crying in Dua.
  6. Do Hand Reflexology on Tasbeehs.
  7. Brighten your smile by using a Miswaak.
  8. Take your weight off your shoulders by paying your Zakaat.
  9. Shrug off those extra Kilos of Sins by Repenting!

May Allah accept all good we do in Ramadan! InshAllah & Ameen! 🙂

*gossip >gheebah : Backbiting; Gheebah or backbiting means speaking about a Muslim in his absence and saying things that he would not like to have spread around or mentioned. Buhtaan or slander means saying things about a Muslim that are not true, or in other words telling lies about him. Nameemah or malicious gossip means telling one person what another said in order to cause trouble between them.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful”
[al-Hujuraat 49:12]

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
Whoever wrongs a person by slandering him, backbiting about him or insulting him, then repents, Allaah will accept his repentance, but if the one who was wronged finds out about that, he has the right to settle the score. But if he slandered him or backbit about him and the person did not hear of that, then there are two views according to the scholars, both of which were narrated from Ahmad, the more correct of which is that he should not tell him that he spoke against him in his absence. It was said that he should rather speak well of him in his absence just as he spoke badly of him in his absence, as al-Hasan al-Basri said: the expiation for gheebah is to pray for forgiveness for the person about whom you backbit.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 3/291

 And Allaah knows best.

References taken from: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/23328/backbiting

Finally! Ramadaaaaan 1432!

It is finally here! My favorite month besides rabbi ulawwal! And the most special thing about this month for me is that I feel the closest to Allah.

Wishing a Blessed Ramadan to all Muslims across the globe! May Allah accept our fasts and duas..n give us all a chance to not just be better Muslims, but humans as well. InshAllah and Ameen!

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell his Companions the good news of the onset of Ramadaan, and urge them to make the most of it. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said,
‘There has come to you Ramadaan, a blessed month. Allaah has made it obligatory on you to fast (this month). During it the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of Hell are locked, and the devils are chained up. In it there is a night that is better than a thousand months, and whoever is deprived of its goodness is deprived indeed.'”

(Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 4/129; Saheeh al-Targheeb, 1/490)

And Allaah knows best!

Leave Allah’s plans to Him..

I was watching a movie today.. hadn’t cried in a while.. my heart felt light. For a change, in the past 3 and a half weeks, my head didn’t seem to ache.. everything seemed quiet, and peaceful… At the end of the day, once I was done with my good-nites and sleep-tites, I just lay down thinking.. all that happens around us… most of the things that spontaneously happen and take our breath away, leaving an overjoyed stupid smile on our faces, with genuine happiness reflecting in the gleaming eyes, well most of these things are actually those which we don’t plan for- which only makes me realize, how much I detest planning. Number 1, most things don’t exactly go according to the plan; number 2, the excitement upon achieving the goal as planned is not as hot as that super cool feeling you get when achieving something that hadn’t exactly been planned out; number 3, I strongly believe, there’s a time for everything, which I also believe strongly negates the mere idea of planning! And number 4, planning requires more of a human’s brain to work, than the heart– for me, I would opt for the ♥ touch any given day.. any given time. Though more often than not, I’ve begun with worrying, for things which I later realized left me exhausted uselessly, mainly ‘coz they’d already been planned out by the One Who is the Greatest of Planners. I’m trying to be at peace with myself for now..

Reminds me of a quote by Omar Khayyám, the Phisopher of the World..

“Why ponder thus the future to foresee,
and jade thy brain to vain perplexity?
Cast off thy care, leave Allah’s plans to him –
He formed them all without consulting thee.”

Makes sense now, does it not? 🙂 hmmm…

Misconception about the Month of Safar

“Prophet (S.A.W )  said, the descending of illness and evil superstition befalling in the month of Safar is untrue.” (Muslim)

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“(There is) no ‘Adwa (no contagious disease is conveyed without Allah’s permission),
nor is there any bad omen (from birds), nor is there any Haamah,
nor is there any (bad omen in the month of) Safar,
and one should run away from the leper as one runs away from a lion.”

(narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5387; Muslim, 2220)