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no OSHO for me :p

Now this Osho man here, he’s GOTTA be kidding me! This is the second quote by this guy which seriously makes me wonder… Seems like a very troubled soul! Never gonna get how gazillions of people can indulge into this kind of philosophy. So here’s what he said that reminded me how his other quote had ticked me off.

Osho- Being alone

And actually, on the contrary, the capacity to be alone and one enjoying his company all alone, all by himself… Wouldn’t that completely reflect a selfish trait? Which can’t be a positive thing, or can it? Unless one is running away in the other direction if he sees the opposite one leading towards Dajjal, well I’m sure that kind of selfishness would be globally acceptable amongst the Muslims at least 🙂 And logically, the other part would be incorrect. As per this Osho dude, “only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person”; If people are by themselves and *tick tick* ALONE, they would surely want and desire to be loved, well probably. And how would being alone increase one’s capacity of the ability to share? It can certainly make one stupid, and in their last days, sadly, leave them wondering how beautiful life could have been had they been a part of someone else’s life and involved others in their own; ’cause the truth in fact is that “Sharing is Caring”. If one is alone, he probably would develop a habit of the kind of privacy for his possessions that would annoy him if he is ever expected to share. So, excuse me but *ehem ehem* I gotta lmao. And OH MY DEAR GOD! How can one, who is capable of being alone go deeper into the soul of another? Sorry Osho man! That did not really sink in. And this thing where he associates love with possession is a completely different subject…

love- Osho

Love is not about possession. Those who love, value people, and not things. Things can be possessed. Not love. An infant is dependent on the 2 people who love him the most, and with time as the child grows, the parents are dependent on their offspring’s love and support. That dependency, has other names. It comprises of not just love and support, but also infinite respect, trust, a bond like no other, compassion and several other emotions that build the essence of the relationship in its entirety. A child and his parents is just one example… there are several more. The dependency such relations have on one another is far from material possessions and their importance.

Going forward, to me, love being an addiction seems more like a Psychotic disorder which reminds of me some creatures who were obsessed with the idea that every person they met were either totally into them or had a problem with them, so yeah, they were basically too full of themselves. Sorry for sounding mean, but that’s the truth. The latter part of this quote is utterly disturbing for me to elaborate upon, so I shall instead go now and happily indulge into a much sane, n absolutely fictitious adaptation of a Mughal romantic novel by Indu Sundaresan.,

By the way, I have nothing against Osho. Some of his reads are actually quite interesting and thought provoking. This is solely my personal opinion upon a couple of quotes by him. Adieu 🙂

The heart is a fragile thing. Yasmin mogahed.

It is indeed. May Allah fill human hearts with compassion. May He guide us all to understand the difference between the basics of right n wrong. May He give us the sense to understand the gravity of issues asssociated with severing blood n other close relations, and especially aqal to think a thousand times before speaking bad bout *anyone*. May He give us aqal to think a gazillion times before hurting other hearts.. May Allah soften our hearts n keep us safe n away from all evil that has the slightest power to harden it. In shaa’Allah ta’alaah n ameen. Salamoalikum wa rehmatullah.

Forgive & Forget

I read this on a page on facebook that I follow; thought I’d share it here..425749_10151415404352652_799557698_nWe have been taught “to forgive, but never forget”, right?

Most of us lie when we say that we have forgiven the people for their mistakes and wrongdoings but then we continue to remind them of their mistake sometimes. Maybe in anger or maybe just to tease or make them feel hurt.

Is this a forgiveness we want for ourselves as well?

When we raise our hands in humility towards heavens and we beg for forgiveness, what do we ask for? What kind of forgiveness do we ask for?

We want a clean chit from Allah that we have been forgiven COMPLETELY. We want another chance. We want our huge and endless list of crimes to be erased. We want Allah to accept our repentance and allow us to start again. We don’t want to be reminded of it, or have it come back to haunt or to taunt us. We want our sins to be forgiven here and veiled on the day of Judgement!!

Subhan’Allah, the mercy of our Lord, the Most Merciful is so much unique that Allah Subhanahu Wa Taa’la after forgiving a repenting believer never reminds him of his wrong deeds, neither in this world nor in the hereafter!

Hence, If we want to be forgiven completely, we must learn to forgive others completely.

May Allah help us not to bear any grudges towards anyone, to treat one another properly and to forgive another completely.

Aameen!

Source: Masnoon Islamic Duas

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Each one of us has the right to make a choice..

Although at times one is required to make compromises, for that special someone, for family, a child, for friends, and just some random people you come across in life out of the goodness of the heart.. and at times, these very people, although I’m sure they don’t intend to, begin taking things for granted.. anyway. Coming back to choices.. I’ve always believed that it’s all.. and everything that happens to us is somehow linked with the choices we make in life.

Often, when choosing a path that may have extreme obstacles, we do so with the thought that our choice will lead to a decision that would not harm us much and at the same time its impact would gain another person more benefit. That’s that angel in us just being selfless :p , knowingly exposing a vulnerable part of ourselves in front of others to simply have fun with.. exploit it at a certain level..

What actually leaves me bamboozled with a deeper intensity is when at times we make a decision that is wholly and solely for our own good, need or simply fulfills our desire, people, some of them who are in fact our very own and close to heart will not take a second to think or hesitate before labeling us.. as a self obsessed brat, slash, the most typically selfish being alive on the planet!

*Bhayee afsos houtah hai.. dil dukhta hai..*
is all I’d like to let em know..

Well, no offense intended to my dear(ies)! I love you! This isn’t to hurt u or make you feel bad if by any chance you read this. Just that today, I choose to be free of worries for no1 else but myself.

Today, I choose to be happy for no1 else but myself.

Voltaire says

Kill the EGO

At Sakonent, the mentorship program is once again being taken seriously. In fact it has always been one of my favorite highlights @ Sakonent! When I joined Sakonent, Asma Abbas was assigned as my mentor – alot of what I know ’bout salesforce is all thanks to Asma’s one- month effort she put in as my mentor initially. I totally cherish this smart young lady from the core of my heart 🙂

This time, we have been divided into groups. And each group has been assigned a Mentor. So we, that’d be Khateeb Ibrahim, Atif Shahzad, Khizar Anjum and myself have Farhan Hussaini assigned as our mentor. Apart from the professional associations that each of us might have had with Farhan over the course of several different projects, we know one thing about Farhan on a one-to-one basis. He is an extremely down to earth individual and believes in being a team player, so that no one’s ever left behind. I recently found out that he’s also a pro at Table Tennis, having earned the Table Tennis Championship.

It was Farhan who provided us with the food for thought.. regarding Ego during our first session of the mentorship program.

Farhan shared his thoughts upon how ego is developed within one; when we acquire information, expertise, knowledge, we sense a feeling of empowerment within. And that’s when ego is born. We tend to unconsciously compare our recently attained skills with those who do not have it.

EGO; the word itself emits an aura that seems to look DOWN upon things and people in comparison to itself. This attribute in one tends to make one selfish, commanding, expectant beyond reasonable expectations, in fact, if you take a shot at being blunt and call such creatures egoistic, they’d be down right offended and look down even deeper at you! lol!

Kill that Ego! When Farhan pointed out first that each one of us have some bit of ego within us, I know we were all smiling. Nobody objected as such. And we did all nod when next he said that it was essential that we Kill that EGO!

Nouman Ali Khan, a young speaker who makes Da’awa and whose lectures I absolutely and thoroughly enjoy listening to shared a very simple way to evaluate whether you as an individual have an *Ego Issue*. If you find yourself getting offended when your partner, colleague, friend, classmate or even a child corrects you over a matter of any sort, then you most certainly have an Ego prob! Get rid of it! Even better.. Kill it! 😉

The least that action would do is make you humble and empathetic 🙂 and without an Ego, it would be easier for you to deal with any kinda person in your life in a humane manner, be it a personal or professional situation.

And in simple, ego is destructive. It is not a good thing.. so let go of it.. & yes, make sure you don’t confuse it with self respect 🙂

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Originally posted on sara@sakonent; Kill the EGO.

Friday mabrook to all! :)

Bismillah ar-Rahman-nir-Raheem

Ya Allah, Ya Rabbe Kareem, ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, Ya Allah You showered the most incredible blessing upon us, You made us amongst the Ummat-e- Mustafa sallal Laaho aleihi wa aliehi wasallam, Ya ALlah You granted us this incredible honor to be a follower of the Last and greatest Messenger, the greatest of all of Your creation, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, We have allowed ourselves to become distant from his Sunnah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his seerah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his sifaat-e- Mouminana, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we ask You to restore to us his naboo’at, and to restore us to our ummati-ness, Ya Allah we ask You to make us amongst his Kaamil followers, amongst his Kaamil inheritors, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe kareem we want to meet the Prophet sallalaaho aleihi wa alihi wasallam in such a state on the day of judgement that we are able to recognize him, and that he is able to recognize us, that we are able to lay claim to him, and Ya Allah that he himself lays claims to us as his ummati, Ya Allah we ask You to grace us by having the shifa of Rasool Allah sallalaaho aleihi wa aalihi wasallam, let him intercede for us on that day, let us get a place on his ranks and his sahfoof in his rows on the day of judgement, Ya Allah ya Rabbe Kareem, let us get a place in his shade on the day of judgement, and let us get a place in his shade in Jannah for all of the Aakhira for the ever lasting after life, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to Guide us to the path of the Sunnah, the way of the Sunnah, the teachings of the Sunnah, the lifetime of the Sunnah, the emotions of the Sunnah, and the mentality of the Sunnah, Ya Rabbe Kareem we ask you to restore to us this identity of being his follower, Ya Allah we ask you to increase our love for the Prophet Muhammad sallal laaho aleihi waalihi wasallam, our love as the love as his Sahaaba-e- karaam raziAllahtaAlah anhu, our love for all of those who love him, our love for all of those who were beloved to him, our love for each and everyone of his actions, anyone and each one of his statements, each and everyone of his feelings, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to accept our Dua, we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah, from the tips of our hair, to the soles of our feet, from the outermost part of our skin, to the depth and inner most core of our being, Ya Allah we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah life, in the Sunnah way.
Ameen. Summa Ameen.

(Dedicated to the works and lectures of Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed
– Dua after the lecture delivered on the Last Ayaahs of Surah Al Baqarah
LUMS- Lahore University of Management Sciences)
Source: http://www.islamicspirituality.org/lectures/tafsir

May Allah increase our iimaan. inshAllah and ameen.

Jumma Mabrook everyone!

Reflect on this..

Sometimes we lose hope in turning to God and asking for His help because we feel like we have done too much wrong. And yet think of a child who has just angered his mother and immediately after trips and falls on the stairs. Even if that child had just angered his mother to tears, the moment he falls and cries for help, she runs to him. This is human mercy.

And God is infinitely more merciful than a mother is to her child. So, do you think–no matter what you’ve done–when you’re falling and cry out to the *most* merciful…He wouldn’t come save you?

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed

Anger: the negative force

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The message above was tweeted by Boona Mohammed back in February 2012 and I loved it! I re-tweeted it and posted it on my networks to share.. 2 days ago, I came across a colleague of mine and there was that word mentioned during the conversation and I very reluctantly sunk deep… and deeper into that thought which I had with utmost difficulty managed to lose track of! And yet, when the word was brought up again, I couldn’t resist indulging back into those disturbing thoughts.

Anger. One word short of Danger. So it is!

Anger blocks out the human sense and takes over the mind and heart and keeps spreading throughout till it eventually takes over the whole body, and once that happens, one has the power and capacity to hurt another.. with words, actions or even physically. Anger is dangerous on more levels if one realizes that not just others, it makes one sensitive and susceptible to getting hurt with the same force as well. The truth is that at the end of the day, anger does cool off. Whatever that takes over the body and soul of the being as anger, does bid adieu. Anger carves itself a place to adjust.. and when it departs, it leaves an empty space.. a hole in the soul.. and all one is left with is remorse of the much conveniently questionable .. “what ifs?”

Till about a couple of years back, I did not know I had so much anger within me. When I am angry, I later realize how different I have become from the person I was.. it is because I have started to let worldly things, factors and people effect me. I have come across many angry people in the course of my existence that make me wonder if it is even remotely possible for one to be free of anger.. only if we ponder and question ourselves in isolation, is there really such a thing as an angry person?  Do we really get angry and do hurtful things to others and ourselves with an evil intention? Well you’d be judged anyway but that’s a different story 🙂 And we gradually begin to comprehend the supporting factors to this emotion that we call anger. We realize that all of us, each and every one of us is fighting a battle of sorts; if only there were a way to stop ourselves being taken over by such a negative emotion..

I don’t know which blog the following text belongs to, but it made complete sense..

There is so much that we are and so much that we aspire to be, that it is a shame for us to define ourselves by the very emotion that smothers our voices and only extends hurt, fear, and pain to others, especially our spouses and children.

There is a reason why the wise remind us time and again: ghussa haram hai.. (Anger is forbidden)..

May 19, 2012

Let go of your grudges. Let the bitterness die tonight. Make a decision today that it’s time to move on. And begin again. New, this time. Never forget that what has passed you by was never meant to befall you. And what has befallen you, was never meant to pass you by. Know that sometimes Allah withholds from you, in order to give you something better. Keep your heart focused on Him, and He will take care of the rest. And remember: you will stumble, but that’s part of the path. Keep going. Keep rising, and refuse to give up.

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed