I will tell you what I have learned from experience;

Only when you stop *needing* those things that desperately chase (love, status, money, career, people, etc) will you get them. Allah is raising you and teaching you to only depend on Him. At times, this is done by withholding. Just like if someone is dependent on a drug, the only way to break the dependency is to withhold the drug. After the dependency is cured, then you will have it or be sufficed in another way, insha Allah. The lesson is to learn to seek everything only through the Source.

 

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed

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Kill the EGO

At Sakonent, the mentorship program is once again being taken seriously. In fact it has always been one of my favorite highlights @ Sakonent! When I joined Sakonent, Asma Abbas was assigned as my mentor – alot of what I know ’bout salesforce is all thanks to Asma’s one- month effort she put in as my mentor initially. I totally cherish this smart young lady from the core of my heart πŸ™‚

This time, we have been divided into groups. And each group has been assigned a Mentor. So we, that’d be Khateeb Ibrahim, Atif Shahzad, Khizar Anjum and myself have Farhan Hussaini assigned as our mentor. Apart from the professional associations that each of us might have had with Farhan over the course of several different projects, we know one thing about Farhan on a one-to-one basis. He is an extremely down to earth individual and believes in being a team player, so that no one’s ever left behind. I recently found out that he’s also a pro at Table Tennis, having earned the Table Tennis Championship.

It was Farhan who provided us with the food for thought.. regarding Ego during our first session of the mentorship program.

Farhan shared his thoughts upon how ego is developed within one; when we acquire information, expertise, knowledge, we sense a feeling of empowerment within. And that’s when ego is born. We tend to unconsciously compare our recently attained skills with those who do not have it.

EGO; the word itself emits an aura that seems to look DOWN upon things and people in comparison to itself. This attribute in one tends to make one selfish, commanding, expectant beyond reasonable expectations, in fact, if you take a shot at being blunt and call such creatures egoistic, they’d be down right offended and look down even deeper at you! lol!

Kill that Ego! When Farhan pointed out first that each one of us have some bit of ego within us, I know we were all smiling. Nobody objected as such. And we did all nod when next he said that it was essential that we Kill that EGO!

Nouman Ali Khan, a young speaker who makes Da’awa and whose lectures I absolutely and thoroughly enjoy listening to shared a very simple way to evaluate whether you as an individual have an *Ego Issue*. If you find yourself getting offended when your partner, colleague, friend, classmate or even a child corrects you over a matter of any sort, then you most certainly have an Ego prob! Get rid of it! Even better.. Kill it! πŸ˜‰

The least that action would do is make you humble and empathetic πŸ™‚ and without an Ego, it would be easier for you to deal with any kinda person in your life in a humane manner, be it a personal or professional situation.

And in simple, ego is destructive. It is not a good thing.. so let go of it.. & yes, make sure you don’t confuse it with self respect πŸ™‚

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Originally posted on sara@sakonent; Kill the EGO.

Friday mabrook to all! :)

Bismillah ar-Rahman-nir-Raheem

Ya Allah, Ya Rabbe Kareem, ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, Ya Allah You showered the most incredible blessing upon us, You made us amongst the Ummat-e- Mustafa sallal Laaho aleihi wa aliehi wasallam, Ya ALlah You granted us this incredible honor to be a follower of the Last and greatest Messenger, the greatest of all of Your creation, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we have wronged ourselves, We have allowed ourselves to become distant from his Sunnah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his seerah, Ya Allah we have allowed ourselves to be distant from his sifaat-e- Mouminana, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, Ya Allah we ask You to restore to us his naboo’at, and to restore us to our ummati-ness, Ya Allah we ask You to make us amongst his Kaamil followers, amongst his Kaamil inheritors, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe kareem we want to meet the Prophet sallalaaho aleihi wa alihi wasallam in such a state on the day of judgement that we are able to recognize him, and that he is able to recognize us, that we are able to lay claim to him, and Ya Allah that he himself lays claims to us as his ummati, Ya Allah we ask You to grace us by having the shifa of Rasool Allah sallalaaho aleihi wa aalihi wasallam, let him intercede for us on that day, let us get a place on his ranks and his sahfoof in his rows on the day of judgement, Ya Allah ya Rabbe Kareem, let us get a place in his shade on the day of judgement, and let us get a place in his shade in Jannah for all of the Aakhira for the ever lasting after life, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to Guide us to the path of the Sunnah, the way of the Sunnah, the teachings of the Sunnah, the lifetime of the Sunnah, the emotions of the Sunnah, and the mentality of the Sunnah, Ya Rabbe Kareem we ask you to restore to us this identity of being his follower, Ya Allah we ask you to increase our love for the Prophet Muhammad sallal laaho aleihi waalihi wasallam, our love as the love as his Sahaaba-e- karaam raziAllahtaAlah anhu, our love for all of those who love him, our love for all of those who were beloved to him, our love for each and everyone of his actions, anyone and each one of his statements, each and everyone of his feelings, Ya Allah Ya Rabbe Kareem, we ask You to accept our Dua, we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah, from the tips of our hair, to the soles of our feet, from the outermost part of our skin, to the depth and inner most core of our being, Ya Allah we ask You to drown us into the Sunnah life, in the Sunnah way.
Ameen. Summa Ameen.

(Dedicated to the works and lectures of Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed
– Dua after the lecture delivered on the Last Ayaahs of Surah Al Baqarah
LUMS- Lahore University of Management Sciences)
Source: http://www.islamicspirituality.org/lectures/tafsir

May Allah increase our iimaan. inshAllah and ameen.

Jumma Mabrook everyone!

Reflect on this..

Sometimes we lose hope in turning to God and asking for His help because we feel like we have done too much wrong. And yet think of a child who has just angered his mother and immediately after trips and falls on the stairs. Even if that child had just angered his mother to tears, the moment he falls and cries for help, she runs to him. This is human mercy.

And God is infinitely more merciful than a mother is to her child. So, do you think–no matter what you’ve done–when you’re falling and cry out to the *most* merciful…He wouldn’t come save you?

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed

Anger: the negative force

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The message above was tweeted by Boona Mohammed back in February 2012 and I loved it! I re-tweeted it and posted it on my networks to share.. 2 days ago, I came across a colleague of mine and there was that word mentioned during the conversation and I very reluctantly sunk deep… and deeper into that thought which I had with utmost difficulty managed to lose track of! And yet, when the word was brought up again, I couldn’t resist indulging back into those disturbing thoughts.

Anger. One word short of Danger. So it is!

Anger blocks out the human sense and takes over the mind and heart and keeps spreading throughout till it eventually takes over the whole body, and once that happens, one has the power and capacity to hurt another.. with words, actions or even physically. Anger is dangerous on more levels if one realizes that not just others, it makes one sensitive and susceptible to getting hurt with the same force as well. The truth is that at the end of the day, anger does cool off. Whatever that takes over the body and soul of the being as anger, does bid adieu. Anger carves itself a place to adjust.. and when it departs, it leaves an empty space.. a hole in the soul.. and all one is left with is remorse of the much conveniently questionable .. “what ifs?”

Till about a couple of years back, I did not know I had so much anger within me. When I am angry, I later realize how different I have become from the person I was.. it is because I have started to let worldly things, factors and people effect me. I have come across many angry people in the course of my existence that make me wonder if it is even remotely possible for one to be free of anger.. only if we ponder and question ourselves in isolation, is there really such a thing as an angry person?Β  Do we really get angry and do hurtful things to others and ourselves with an evil intention? Well you’d be judged anyway but that’s a different story πŸ™‚ And we gradually begin to comprehend the supporting factors to this emotion that we call anger. We realize that all of us, each and every one of us is fighting a battle of sorts; if only there were a way to stop ourselves being taken over by such a negative emotion..

I don’t know which blog the following text belongs to, but it made complete sense..

There is so much that we are and so much that we aspire to be, that it is a shame for us to define ourselves by the very emotion that smothers our voices and only extends hurt, fear, and pain to others, especially our spouses and children.

There is a reason why the wise remind us time and again: ghussa haram hai.. (Anger is forbidden)..

May 19, 2012

Let go of your grudges. Let the bitterness die tonight. Make a decision today that it’s time to move on. And begin again. New, this time. Never forget that what has passed you by was never meant to befall you. And what has befallen you, was never meant to pass you by. Know that sometimes Allah withholds from you, in order to give you something better. Keep your heart focused on Him, and He will take care of the rest. And remember: you will stumble, but that’s part of the path. Keep going. Keep rising, and refuse to give up.

– Words of Wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed

Hyderabadi-ism :)

Other than stuff like.. Cricket… Pakistaniat… Food and etcetra being in my blood as a Pakistani, coming from my mum and dad’s side, hyderbadi-ism I believe is just as much a part of me!

I’ve grown up eating khatti daal, mirchiyon ka salan, double ka mittha, kachi yakhni ki buryani, baghare begann, timaate ki chatni, khubaani ka mitthaa, home-made achhaarz and God! Lots of goodies and more made by my grandmothers, mumma and aunt!

I love how wearing a saree was as easy as putting on a T with a casual pair of jeans for ammi and bibi..
the natural pattern of speech my mum and my aunt, and even my dad and uncles have.. it’s not just Hyderabadi to the core! It’s just lovable! πŸ™‚

Just wanted to share a couple of hilarious videos here showing the way hyderabadi mums kinda get mad at their kids for my family and hyderabadi friends to enjoy πŸ˜‰

Go Hyderbadi-ism! πŸ™‚

miracles…

“There are two ways to look at life. One is as though nothing is a miracle; the other is as though everything is.”

One of my favorite quotes by Albert Einstein! Today, it was the daily quote dosage from my khala which makes the entire deal all the more special for me : )

m i r a c l e s . . .Β Β  do take a moment to realize their existence around & within you…
<alhamdolillah!>

Happy Monday! & have a great week! : )
(drafted on 02-13-2012; published on 02-17-2012)

Keepin’ Calm & Carryin’ On!

One thing that I have been telling myself over and over again.. that it’s never too late!
Even if it means that I’d have to start over in a few important departments of my life. Coz no matter what, I don’t believe I wanna change the person I am..

I’ve learnt alotta things the hard way.. and now I know that is it ok to take a deep breath, that it’s just fine to be selfish once in a while, that there is nothing wrong with looking out for no-one else but myself, that it’s good being gentle to the *sara* for a change.. and that it is certainly okay to move on.
It’s okay to feel brand new.. especially after you’ve been wearing yourself out over others..
And I know that everything’ll b alright inshaAllah in the end! That I am sure bout. And one thing that’s more of a cliche’ to many but is nonetheless true, is that unless all is well, it isn’t the end! So like.. I am very much awaiting the end

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